Long-distance relationships: How to make them work during the pandemic

COVID-19 has upended every aspect of our lives, and one of them is romantic relationships. Governments travel restrictions have been enforced for months now, barring lovers residing in different countries or cities from physically seeing each other for close to six months.

While long-distance relationships come with unique challenges that normal ones don’t face, it is no doubt that the pandemic has amplified these challenges.

Communication

Relationships coaches will collectively agree that communication is one of the critical elements that keep a bond between two people more robust. However, this is a double-edged sword.

We are very lucky to be in the golden age of access to one another at any time through technology. To keep communication healthy, coming up with a schedule that respects each other’s time zones and your other daily activities like jobs is essential.

Instead of texting, chat with your partner on video calling platforms like Zoom, where the experience can be way better than on calls and with less chance of misinterpretation.

On the other hand, excess communication can come off as possessive to some people. Talk to them on what constitutes enough communication to them and maintain that threshold.

You can also make your partner feel loved by sending voice notes, photos, and sharing your day’s tiniest details with them.

Don’t be quick to judge 

With the pandemic raging on, your partner might get distracted by life and forget to check their phone to return a call or text. Your gut reaction shouldn’t be to question their whereabouts and start coming up with a laundry list of possible ways in which they were unfaithful while not responding to you.

Accusations with no due cause are damaging to your relationship. Talk to your partner about your pet peeves in communication without coming across as mistrusting and controlling.

Be there for your partner in every way possible

Knowing your partner’s emotional calls and responding to them has been proved to be the defining factor of most satisfying relationships. So how do you make your partner feel like their emotional calls are heard?

Ask them how their day was, how the business deal she made went, and make the things they consider important your priority.

It would help if you also showed concern for their health, especially now. Wish your partner a safe day when they are going to work and remind them to follow government guidelines without sounding condescending.

Have something to look forward to

What keeps long-distance relationships alive is the thought of when two people are going to be together again. Having that optimism creates enthusiasm and longing for one another, giving meaning to all those promises you made to each other.

Having a shared vision such as an engagement or moving in together that you are looking forward to after you’re back together will keep you going as there is a reward at the end of it all.

Be forthcoming to your partner. If the distance isn’t temporary, let them know so they can move on with their life.

Unlike what most people will have you believe, long-distance relationships don’t always end in tears. If two people are genuinely committed and choose to stay the course, the experience might be more fulfilling than regular relationships.

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